Friday, April 25, 2014

The Not So Adequate Mom



Hello Blessed and Beautiful Daughters of the Most High God!

Knowing that I am the daughter of The Creator of the World should leave me feeling so many WONDERFUL feelings. So why is it that if I had to pin point one emotion that I constantly feel as a mother and step mother, it would be
 
INADEQUATE (lacking the quality or quantity required; insufficient for a purpose).

Not exactly what comes to mind when you think of daughter of the Creator of the Universe right? Well, the truth is, in so many ways I feel I have dropped the ball with being a mother and I am not the mother that I want to be still.

My children are doing well overall but with 6 children it seems like we always have SOMETHING going on (the good, the bad and the ugly). This feeling has been heavy on me for some time, and with much assistance from the enemy. By the time I combine my 2 cups of inadequacy with a heaping cup of guilt, what you will see is the state I have been in for a few weeks now! Walking and sulking in "The Mother I'm Not" verses "The Mother I Should Be". Focused on the things people say about me verses what I know to be true. Discouraged regarding my intentions verses how others chose to perceive things.

So how do I overcome this feeling?

Several things come to mind but 3 hold heavy in my spirit. As I tell you these points, I pray God will begin to lift the burden of inadequacy off of you just as it did for me.

1.) To begin, I first must recognize the importance of John 15:5;

“Yes, I am the vine; you are the branches. Those who remain in me, and I in them, will produce much fruit. For apart from me you can do nothing."

So this leads me to believe that my feeling of inadequacy is a natural feeling I will have because I need Christ. What a relief!

2.) I then see what God has to say about the issue which leads me to 2 Corinthians 12:9-10 (and please excuse the lengthy passage but it is all very relevant);

“My grace is sufficient for you, for power is perfected in weakness.” Most gladly, therefore, I will rather boast [a]about my weaknesses, so that the power of Christ may dwell in me. 10 Therefore I am well content with weaknesses, with [b]insults, with distresses, with persecutions, with difficulties, for Christ’s sake; for when I am weak, then I am strong
 
This comforts me and allows me to see that although I may feel weak and inadequate, this feeling should encourage me to pursue the strength of God in the mothering mission he has given me.

3.) Finally, I find reassurance in his word of his promise to me in Psalms 138:8;
 
"The Lord will perfect that which concerns me;Your mercy, O Lord, endures forever;Do not forsake the works of Your hands."
 
He has called me to be a Mother, so he will perfect me in this area. And as much as I may not like it, mistakes make me better. It perfects me.

When it comes to being a mother and step mother, the enemy wants me to feel inadequate, weak and anything else he can stick on me, BUT if I go to the word of God, I realize that I need God, my weaknesses give me strength and HE will perfect me. So inadequacy isn't welcome in the life of a women on a mission. Not here, Not now, Not ever.

 
I pray that this encouraged you!  Have a blessed weekend!
 
 
 

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