Mommy I think I'm In Love

Hello Ladies,

Today I want to talk about my 8 year olds' first crush. If I could describe the look on my 8 year old son's face when he talks about his 2nd grade crush, the only word I could use would be completely "SMITTEN". It was as if at the age of 8 he knew what he wanted in a girl and SHE was IT! Something about the fact that he had a crush was actually a little cute but I knew that I needed to have a conversation with him about it.

As my son began to pour out his little heart to me about why this little girl was so amazing, he named some pretty important things.

She was pretty, smart, his age and just BEAUTIFUL (with a huge smile).

I guess I couldn't argue those qualities; I still knew I had to dig deeper. As a Godly mother, I had to turn this into a teaching moment. I always try to look for the "TEACHING" moments before I respond to my children.

So I began by asking my son:

"Well, she sounds like a pretty nice girl, wasn't she in your class last year?"
 He quickly responded with an excited and anxious, "Yes!"

"Well, why didn't you like her this much then?"
That was simply my curiosity kicking in. He just kind of shrugged his shoulders.

" I think all the things you named are important traits but I always want you to look at someone you like as a future wife. Although you are to young to get married, we are Christians so we don't just like people for the sake of dating them; we always have to see if God would have them to be our mate. You are not to young for God to show you your mate!'

The conversation continued on from this point, but for the sake of time,  I will spare all the details. One thing I made sure to address was the importance of salvation and relationship with God in whomever he selected as a wife. We talked a little more and being a child of short attention span, he ran off to play.  As he played I thought about the conversation hoping that I said the right things.

Some of you may say this conversation was a little advanced for an 8 year old, but if you think about it, our children are exposed to so much in the world regarding dating that at some point we must step in to provide guidance on how they should perceive people of the opposite sex. If we do not teach them, someone else (such as Mr. Social Media) will do it for us. I mentioned this conversation to some of the Moms at one of our Mom Squad gatherings and they confirmed that my response was good. Its always a blessing to have friends that will let you know you are mothering somewhat well!

Ladies, lets not only model a Godly marriage in front of our children but lets also talk to them about the relationship model from a Godly perspective! I believe that if we talk to them about Godly marriages while they are children, it could potentially eliminate a more painful conversation about divorce when they become adults. If you are married or single this conversation is vitally important.

Be Blessed