Single Moms...God is working it out!

Hello dear friends!

I'm going to write this specifically for a group of women.  These women are playing the part of both mom and dad to their children because of divorce or separation or maybe there was no marriage and once you had the child(ren), your boyfriend left.  Perhaps you had a one night stand (can we keep it real?) and you were left with a broken heart and a baby on the way.  This post is for you today.

I am you.  My story is that I got married to the person that I thought was the man of my dreams only to find out very shortly after marriage that he was absolutely the opposite.  He hurt me in a way that no one ever had and no one ever can again.  I have a scar on my heart from that hurt.  And although it heals over, from time to time it gets ripped open again.  From this disastrous marriage, came the greatest blessing.  I had the blessing of being a mom to a very special boy, Emmanuel.  And sometimes, when I'm feeling down or Emmanuel is having a hard day, the scar gets ripped open. 

With that open wound, I'm reminded of my failures.  I'm reminded of the hurt.  I'm reminded of my shame.  I'm reminded of my anger towards my ex-husband.  I'm overwhelmed by the guilt of divorce.  It's a constant... thing.  It never gets easier, it never goes away, it never heals completely.  And it makes me wonder why God allowed this to happen.  Why would a God so good allow hurt like this?

Lately, I've gotten mad again at my ex.  It never seems like he does enough as a parent for our son.  It never seems like he's sacrificing nearly as much as I am to be a parent.  I feel taken advantaged of and I feel sad for our little boy that his dad is not around.

 

Can anyone relate to this?  Being mad at their ex?  Being disappointed?  Feeling guilty about it because you know you should have never put yourself into the position that you're now in? 

Somehow, and call me crazy, I believe that God is working on me through all of this.  I believe that He is teaching me a lesson about grace, mercy, forgiveness, and love...not only for me but also for my ex.  I believe that Romans 8:28 will be my life verse "And we know that in all things God works for the good of those who love him, who have been called according to his purpose." and God has a greater purpose for all of this.  Somehow I believe that, at the end of the day, God will get the glory out of this entire situation.

The key is to hold on to that hope that God is working it out for our good.  The key, for you and I, is to not allow the enemy to sneak into our thoughts and hold this shame over us.  God has already forgiven us.  The key is to not allow the enemy to sneak into our thoughts and make us lose our temper and get so angry that we say and do things that are out of our character and out of God's character. 

And lastly, we need to remember the gift of our children and of being a parent.  God doesn't make mistakes.  The child(ren) you have with that person isn't a mistake.  It's a perfect gift from our perfect Savior.  Truly, God has already worked it out for our good and we see that in the goodness of our children.

So, to all of my single moms who are dealing with an ex, I totally get it.  Let's stay encouraged in knowing that God is a good God and He will get the glory.  Let's stay prayed up so that when the enemy comes with his tricks, we are prepared to fight.  Let's stay in the Bible so we can be reminded of who God is and that He doesn't make mistakes.  And finally, let's forgive.  Let's forgive ourselves for our decisions and let's forgive our ex for their decisions.  Join me in this and let us experience the freedom that is in Christ.

God bless you!